Let’s get one thing clear right now, Body Image is NOT about your physical appearance, it’s about the psychological thoughts you have about your body. In fact, Body Image has nothing to do with your actual appearance! It is TOTALLY about how you feel about your body! It doesn’t matter whether you weigh 50kgs or 100kgs, it’s about your self-perception and the feelings you attach to that perception.
I have worked with models who are extremely thin and still don’t think they are good enough. I have worked with women who thought their unhappy life was because they weren’t the right weight and then they have lost that weight, only to still be unhappy! I have also coached robust curvy women who simply love their bodies. The truth is body shape and/or weight, does not determine how anyone feels about their body. Body image issues come in all shapes and sizes because there is so much more to it.
Us women tend to use weight as an excuse we tell ourselves to account for whatever isn't going right in our life.
Do you ever find yourself thinking things like if I was skinnier I would be happier? If I was skinnier I would have a boyfriend. If I was skinnier I would get that job. If I was skinnier I would like myself more. If I was skinnier I wouldn’t feel sad anymore. If I was skinnier all my problems would be fixed. And the list of ‘if I was skinnier’ and some part of my life would be better, goes on and on.
Why is it that we as women carry this burden of a negative body image? How did this happen? How did we buy into this?
We end up depressed, exercising manically, have disordered eating and worse of all, still end up hating ourselves.
Much of this is the result of images of apparent physical perfection that bombard us from everywhere, like billboards, magazines, television, movies, the internet and so on. But it’s not real! These perfect women don’t even look like this themselves, they are photo shopped! It’s an illusion! It’s marketing!
We know this, yet we continue to compare ourselves to these images and we continue to fat shame ourselves and keep ourselves feeling bad about how we look!
The only winner here are the marketing companies selling their programs and products designed to keep women feeling bad.
Deeper than that, is the fact that women today have the added pressure of doing so much more and feeling guilty if they aren't superwoman. So they put unrealistic expectations and unsustainable demands on themselves in an attempt to strive to be that perfect woman that can do it all. Then we collapse into an emotional mess, trying to work out why we still aren't happy within ourselves.
I used to be that girl, and it took me years to realise I was okay, that I was enough and that true beauty is the gift of self-love and acceptance that only you can give yourself.
I specialise in creating the mindset it takes to have positive Body Image and Self Esteem. I work with you lovingly and I help you examine the negative beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviours that are contributing to your negative body image and low self-esteem. Everyone deserves to be happy in the skin they are in, and always remember, your appearance doesn’t define you, there is so much more to you.